I am NOT your stereotype

I have every right to be angry

I have every right to be hurt

I have every right to speak my truth I have every right to lash out

I am not your stereotype

I am an educated black woman that has every right to feel alone in a society that was built to break us down.

I will rise, I will stand, I will fight!


I can’t trust you

The day is bright, the sun is high, and the sky is as clear as the water in the Bahamas. 

We’re catching up, enjoying apps and throwing back drinks. Laughing the day away while we’re enjoying each other’s company.

Dressing up…. going out. That’s what I remember. Do you?

Do you remember sharing your secrets and telling me you love me? Do you remember asking me to come over and telling me you miss me? Well, I do!

I remember when our friendship meant something to me. I remember when I needed a fun night out and you were there. You know, it’s funny how memories work. They show only the past never the present.

And currently your presence is no more. You’ve vanish! Disappeared in thin air. All jokes aside, I can’t see you. Are you still sleeping? Your silence and lack of presence has altered my love for you.

Your friendship was a lie. Your generosity was a lie. Your support was a lie. YOU ARE A LIE!

I can’t trust you. I don’t know who you are. You’ve blinded me with the lies and deceit that society has feed you. You’ve tricked me with your words of bigotry. Well, I say no more! No more friendship. The way you’ve chosen to be silent in a time like this… I’ve chosen to silence our friendship.

If you need explanation… here’s one for you. WAKE THE FUCK UP!

A letter to the Queens

Dear Queen,

You’ll face incredible challenges throughout your life based on the way you look and carry yourself. It will not always be fair, nor right, but stand strong!

Just know its okay to push away the hands that want to lay upon your tresses. You have every right to protect and defend what is yours. Never let others tell you what is right based on your personal morals. 

Just like their entitlement has a strong hold on society, so does yours. You are entitled to having emotions without receiving the negative back lash of others. You are entitled to correct the ignorance that has fallen upon you. Never stray from your morals and believing in the right way of doing things. Believe in your self and put faith in your people.

Stop sheltering your little ones and allow them to see the world in all of its unlawful reality. Continue to educate and inspire others that look like you. Teach them how to adapt with society instead of being against society. Also, learn to love your curves and dark pigmented skin. Let your glow shine above all the negative comments and hate thrown your way. You are a queen honey, and no one can ever dethrone you.

Your power is so immaculate! You don’t look like anyone else but yourself. So when they even studder a different name other than your birth name, feel entitled to educate and correct them. To others we may look alike, but to me all I can hear is….”it is hard to differentiate the queens and kings of this land”. Don’t react to the patriarchy, but instead adjust to it. Simply by showing others you are a queen and one of a kind. 

Allow yourself to support your people instead of leaving them in poverty. Allow your power to lift them up instead of joining society to break them down. We are one; TOGETHER! We have the knowledge and the power to create a positive outcome. We’re not small minded by any means, we’re just passionate about what we believe in. It’s okay to shout, pray, cry, and sometimes even breakdown. We are all human, and with every human we are all imperfect. 

Shield those dream crushers and dream harder than you ever have. Allow those dreams to push you toward success and freedom. Allow those goals to silence your nay sayers. You ARE worthy! And you CAN do it!! Believe in who you are because you may very well be the next governor, doctor, or lawyer. 

We’re all branded with the word “guilty” on our backs. However, it is how we transform the word into positive actions. As the law announces “we are all innocent until proven guilty”, firmly stand by that. We are not guilty until proven otherwise. We are guilty of being mistreated and misunderstood, however. That is why educating others and people alike is so crucial. 

Furthermore, just remember we are one, TOGETHER. “We the people”, that is clearly stated on the constitution has been over looked, because we ARE considered part of the people.

Let’s talk natural hair products

Hey loves! Last week I mentioned I would be discussing natural hair products this week. This is honestly one of my favorite things to discuss. The thing about natural hair products is that they are completely healthy and beneficial for healthy hair. Now let’s get started!

With any natural product you want to find out what the benefits are. Luckily, for you, I’ve done my research and personally experiemented with my hair. The first thing I’d like to talk about is how to properly wash your hair with natural products without using shampoo. Most shampoos will strip your hair from its natural oil and vitamins. Although, it does cleanse your hair and remove buildup. I have a safer and natural way to do just that. 

I start with ACV (apple cider vinegar). Apple cider vinegar has a number of beneficial properties. I use it for my hair because it cleanses your scalp and removes product buildup without harming your hair. I start by first rinsing my hair throughly and ringing out the remainder moisture. I then pour the apple cider vinegar all over my hair, section by section, making sure I massage it throughout. I’ll leave it in for about 1 to 3 minutes and rinse it out. 

After I’ve rinsed my hair with ACV, I take some fermented rice water that I’ve let sit for 48 hours and rinse my hair with that. Rice water promotes healthy hair growth. It’s not necessary to use it every week however, twice a month will do the job. Before using you should rinse the rice off and then place it into a container that you can close with water. There isn’t an exact measurement of rice to water ratio, so you’ll want to eyeball it. After a day or two rice water can become a bit rank. So to avoid the smell you can take one of your favorite smelling essential oils and add a few drips. 

Now after your hair has been cleansed and rinsed with a natural hair growth. The next step is adding a little natural oils back in your hair for a sleek and smoother shine. In others words it’s conditioning time! You’ll take 3 avocados, that you mashed and distribute it throughout your hair. You can also use mayo. Both of these elements will work as a hair mask and conditioner. Avocado helps promote longer stronger hair, leaving your scalp feeling moisturized. It’s packed with vitamins, amino acids and protein. Mayo however, literally does the same thing. 

Once your hair has been washed you’ll need to use products mentioned on my last blog post depending on the style your going for. If your hair is lacking shine and luster. Grapeseed oil, olive oil, and coconut oil are amazing subsitutes for hair oil. However if you suffer from dry scalp, tea oil is perfect. It helps with dandruff and head lice as well. 

I hope I helped some of you all find cheaper natural ways to maintain a healthy head of hair. Thank you all for joining in and I look forward to talking to you all next week. Until next time, be safe and have a great weekend. 

Let’s talk natural hair

Hello to all of my natural curly headed ladies!! I’ve received a number of messages and emails, related to the hair products I use for my hair. So for those who have questions about being natural or taking the journey to go natural, I’m here to give you the 411 on products and my routine. 

I’ve currently been natural for a little over two years now. It all transpired one evening, when I said to myself enough is enough. I’m going to go natural and create a healthier routine for myself. FYI going natural isn’t for everyone. It takes a ton of commitment and it’s definitely a process. 

For those looking to take a leap to healthier hair, first things first…. cut the cord! Meaning cut out all of your heated devices such as a straightener, curling iron, and blow dryer. Products that provide heat to your hair can ultimately damage your curl pattern at the beginning stages.

Secondly, throw away any products that you use to wash or moisturize your hair that aren’t natural products. Meaning if your products contain any of these items below, get rid of them. 

1. Petroleum or Mineral Oil -(suffocates your hair and roots from growing) 

2. Parabens – ( disrupts your hormones and pose as a cancer risk) 

3. Alcohol- (literally strips away all of your healthy natural oils, leaving your hair dry and brittle)

4. Sulfates – ( strips the oil and dirt from your hair and depletes the sebum that’s naturally acts as a moisturizer in you hair)

5. Silicone – ( acts like a rubber shield that coats your hair and seals it from recieving moisture) 

Thirdly, identifying your hair type. It’s very important to know your hair texture, whether you’re 1A or 4C. It is important because you need to know what products will work best for your hair texture as well as what you’ll need to provide a healthier growth of hair. Here’s an example down below if your unsure.

Lastly, find products that work with your hair type. Everyone has a different product that works for them. So you’ll need to experiment a little with natural hair care products. Below are some great selections for a variety of natural hair textures. 

1. Carol’s Daughters Coco Créme Coil Enhancing Moisture Butter $9- $15 (any and all of Carol’s Daughters are amazing. Their products are my absolute favorite for 4a – 4c )

2. DevaCurl High Shine Multi- Benefit Oil $29 ( light and feathering shine that creates shine the doesn’t dull throughout the day, and doesn’t weigh your curls down) 

3. Shea Moisture Coconut Custard Make It Last Wash N’ Go Shampoo $3 – $5 ( restores hydration and cleanses your hair from buildup) 

4. Aunt Jackies Knot On My Watch Instant Detangling Therapy (creates a slick and smoother way to detangle all of those pesky knots)

5. Curls The Green Collection Avocado Hair Mousse $19 ( restores your hair’s PH and cleanses the scalp) 

6. Mielle Rosemary Mint Strengthening Hair Masque $10 (restores hydration to your scalp)

7. Camille Rose Lavender Shaken Hair Spritzer $12 ( pick me up for your curls)

8. Mane Choice Tropical Moringa Leave In Conditioner $15 (peomotes hair growth and retention)

9. Mizani 25 Miracle Milk Leave In Treatment $30 (literally does it all! Has over 20 benefits that fall into the protect, prep and moisture category) 

Thank you for joining in today. Next week I’ll focus on creating your very own hair routine out of things in your kitchen. Until next time, keep hitting your Z-spot!


Let’s talk Skin Care

It’s about to be a new year and I know there’s always those new year’s resolutions that are hard to stick with. So let’s talk new year’s, new skin regimen. There’s nothing better than going into the new year with glowing skin. 

I’m constantly being asked what do I use to keep my skin looking clear and flawless throughout the year. Well here are some of my little secrets that I’m happy to share with you all. Every night before bed I will wash my makeup off with a wash cloth and Dove soap. I’m obsessed with all of the Dove products because they’re soothing and leave your skin feeling ultra soft after using only once. For those with sensitive skin there is a sensitive soap that Dove carries as well. 

After, clearing my face from the days debri and makeup, I’ll use a face mask before bed. I have a conclave of different mask I’ll use during the week, but with that being said you’ll need to have at least 15 minutes a day that you can carve out to take care of your skin. 

My absolute favorite mask I enjoy using before bed is the African Black Soap Clarifying Mud Mask with Tamarind Extract & Tea Tree Oil, from Shea Moisture. It’s a great way to cleanse the dirt and oil from your pores. With this mask you’ll need to leave it on for at least 10 to 15 min and then rinse with warm water. After, I’ve throughly rinsed my mask  off I like to moisturize my face with Clinique’s dramatically different moisturizing gel. I like using this gel because it helps with my oily skin and also moisturizes. 

My second favorite mask by Shea Moisture is the Youth-Infusing Mud Mask with Olive Leaf Extract & Grapeseed Oil. This mask is absolutely amazing! You apply it and after 10 to 15 minutes your skin is immediately tightened after one application. Also, it removes the unwanted oils from your face. After, I’ve clenesed my face with the mask, I use the Anti-aging Retinol Beauty Oil with Rosehip Oil, by The Beauty Poundry. This not only moisturizes my skin but it also helps by visibly creating a youthful firmness and a smoother complexion. 

If your looking for something a little more natural, a DIY turmeric face mask is also a great way to cleanse and brighten your face. You can find many different recipes online to create your personal mask that caters to your skin. But whether you decide to go the natural route or use a Shea Moisture product make sure to moisturize after each application. Even if you have oily skin like me. Moisturizing helps with the elasticity in your skin. And believe me you’re going to want all of the elasticity you can get, to keep your skin looking youthful. 

This year let’s stay even more flawless and youthful! I’ll talk to you all next year *wink. Until next time stay updated with your Z-Spot

Let’s talk Christmas

Christmas is literally right around the corner. Have you bought all of your Christmas gifts yet? No worries most of your major department stores are open until 6pm Christmas eve including the mall, for all of your last minute purchases. Be sure to look for any deals going on in-store and online. During this time of year, you’ll have the pleasure of finding a few deals happening in some of your favorite shopping locations. 

For those traveling this holiday, make sure to look at the weather before traveling. Its never fun when you’re caught up in unexpected weather, because you didn’t plan your attire accordingly. Also, for those traveling long distances out of town make sure to leave earlier than expected, because traffic will be backed up. Also, make sure to look at your flight iternary for delayed flights. 

Flying during the weekend is typically more expensive than flying on a weekday. So if you have the option of leaving the day before Christmas, I’d advice you to do that. However, for those planning to leave the weekend during Christmas plan to be at the airport 3 hours earlier rather than 2 hours earlier. That way you prevent being late for your flight and avoid the wait by TSA if they’re taking a little longer to get passengers aboard. 

Have you figured out what you’re cooking or bringing to the Christmas dinner yet? Is your family doing a theme based dinner? Have you thought of any non traditional entrees? Well, luckily for you, here a few worthy ideas to look into! Instead of doing the traditional turkey and other comfort foods…what about trying something different, such as seafood for Christmas dinner. Crab legs, shrimp, sea scallops or even lobster can be used as an alternative rather than the traditional Turkey and Ham centerpiece meat. But this is just an idea that my family and friends have tried. 

Also, have you ever been in the middle of eating dinner and realized the mac and cheese or sweet potatoes were tastier than the actual centerpiece meat?! Then having an all vegetarian or vegan option could be the path you’d like to take. Starting with the idea of having a vegetarian lasgana or spaghetti squash and chickpea meatballs as your main course accompanied with some tasty side dishes. 

However, for those who are running late to get everything you need for your special events during the holiday. Make sure to be aware of your nearest grocery store for their holiday hours. Almost all of your go-to grocery stores are open until 6pm Christmas Eve. Although, some may be open a little later, such as Harris Teeter who will be open until 7pm.

Whatever you decide to do during Christmas…. please be attentive with all of your shopping needs, travel plans, and savory dishes you’ll be whipping up this Christmas. Until next week, be safe and Merry Christmas! 

Happy Holidays!

Let’s talk Graduation

You’ve graduated and now you’re finally in the big world. Now what? Yeah, I’m sure you’re excited that you don’t have to get up for 8 o’clock classes and run across campus in hopes that you won’t be late. There’s always that moment you feel discouraged or a little nervous about what you’re going to do next after college. And believe, me post graduation depression is very real. Well luckily there’s no need to feel nervous or discouraged about your next journey in life. You’ve literally gained the experience and knowledge to get you to the next step.

Looking for an internship or job right after college can tend to be a little overwhelming. At that point you’re going to want to research internships in your area or jobs in your area, that correlate with you degree. But I’ll get in to that a little later. The first step you’re going to want to take is branding yourself. This is going to be the most important step because this will be considered your foundation of your career. Without the experience and or background that most jobs are requiring in the work force are detrimental. I’d first start with the knowledge and expertise you obtained through education and go from there. For example, if your degree is in science, look at the hours spent doing labs and re-imagine the tools you equipped during that time and apply it to your branding.

For example I have a bachelor in Science with a concentration in Apparel Design and Textiles. Unfortunately, living in North Carolina there wasn’t much to pick from in the fashion industry unless I wanted to work in retail. However, being that I’ve already experienced the retail business, I was in no rush of going back to it. I wanted to do something a little more fulfilling and exciting. So, I started branding myself. I took the knowledge I gained from working many hours in the alteration shop, designing patterns, working with Adobe illustration and photoshop, and applied it to my brand.  

The next step is putting yourself out there. After you’ve established your brand this step becomes somewhat second nature. You’re now able to reach out to others in your related field and start an internship or job. Speaking of internships, never down play the power of an internship or collaboration with someone. It’s a great way to pick their brain and gain more intel on what to expect. It can also help land a job opportunity in your desired field.

Some may look at an internship or collaboration as free grunt work. Although, that may be somewhat true, you can’t even imagine how learning those skills in the beginning can really pave a way into your future. 

I’m a living example. After graduating college I wasn’t exactly sure where to start when it came to fashion. So, being that there weren’t many fashion jobs to pick from. I not only started branding myself, but I also started honing in on all of my talents and knowledge; fashion related. I literally became my very own walking billboard. I reached out to others who had similar careers as well as goals. I sent countless emails and DM’s in hopes that I’d land something. During that time, I also started doing makeup part- time for photo shoots, prom and weddings. I eventually progressed to styling shoots behind the camera and then working as a model in front of the camera. During the process, I learned creative directing, staging, skin care, and set design. I even took it further and taught myself how to work in front of and behind the camera. Everything from lighting to editing a photograph.

After, collaborating with others in my field, I found an amazing job at Vert and Vogue as an in house model. I wasn’t sure what to expect when I first walked in for my test shoot, being that I hadn’t had too much experience in the modeling industry. I took everything I knew about fashion and makeup and allowed that to be my crutch in a way.

I was able to go in there feeling confident and deserving. Which is very important. Mindset can ultimately be your make or break factor. If you don’t have the confidence and mindset that anything is possible you’ll never succeed in life. I know that may come off a little harsh but lets be real here. No one is going to want to work with someone who is a negative Nancy or has no confidence in themselves.

At the end of the day its all about the pitch.

Which leads me to the final step. 

These days you look on “Indeed” or “” and they are expecting you to have years of experience in a field that you haven’t even had the chance to work in. I never quite understood that method. I mean if you haven’t been given the chance to work in that field, how do they expect you to have the experience. However, no worries, take what you’ve learned through branding, collaboration/internship and apply it to your experience now. For example: if they’re looking for someone who is great with people and can communicate well, then just think back to the times you worked with different people from different backgrounds and were still able to get the job done. You can honestly find experience in your own life that will correlate with what they’re looking for, you just have to do some evaluating.

So don’t forget to apply branding, collaborating/internships, and your pitch to your methods after graduation to obtain the desired job in your field.

Knowledge is POWER, never forget that!

See you next week, and don’t forget to hit The “Z” Spot.

Let’s talk introductions

Hi, it’s Zanetta here coming at you live and direct from my computer screen. Who is Zanetta, you ask?! Well if you must know, I’m a multi- talented, strong, blunt and sensitive young woman.

I was born and raised in North Carolina, Hickory to be exact and in a single parent home. Although, I came from a quiet little town, my dreams and bold personality were nothing even close to being small.

Growing up black in the South wasn’t all that bad. Even if I did graduate with about 10 black young men and women in my high school class. I never let the fact of looking different from my peers and growing up in a small town hold me back.

I went to North Carolina Central University (EAGLE PRIDE) and graduated with a Bachelor’s in Science, with a concentration in Apparel Design and Textiles.

I thought I wanted to be a fashion designer, but once I graduated college I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do. I knew I was talented in many aspects of life, such as art, design, creativite directing, styling, public speaking and so much more. I couldn’t shake the feeling that I wanted to do something in fashion. Luckily, that’s what led me to becoming a published model.

You know that saying “fashion is my passion”? Well, I can’t stress enough but that’s literally how I feel. Fashion is LITERALLY my passion! However, there are so many facets that make up fashion. I mean there’s skin care, hair, makeup, food, travel and life itself, that plays its very own part.

And with that being said…. that’s what my blog will foretell each week. I’ll cover something different each week and post photos along with the narrative. I look forward to seeing comments and hearing feedback from fellow readers and supporters.

Thank you all for starting this new journey with me.

“There isn’t any pleasing some people The trick is to stop trying.”

– Robert M.

 Photos by: @Khoazzyphotos